Part 3 of 4: Solution To Overcoming Your Mental Barriers and Cultivating A Winner's Mentality
Before getting to some action steps, I'll end the "theory" part of this chapter by, ahem, "droppin' some knowledge".
When it comes to finally getting in shape (or really, any major obstacle in your life), do you ever find yourself saying any, or all, of the following?
- "I'm too busy"
- "I would lose weight but I have a bad back (or knees, or shoulder, or [insert other body part which has no impact on what you put into your mouth])"
- "I'm too tired."
- "I have to watch my kids"
- "I work so hard already. I deserve a break."
- "My coworkers or family eat junk around me, so it's impossible not to join them."
(Or, really any other excuse that's keeping you from your goals)
The thing is, we all have to deal with these, every single day. Even now, I sometimes find myself saying "I just have so much to do today, I can't go to the gym". And this is exactly when I know I have to cut the crap and do exactly what I'm avoiding.
Essentially, we need to train our minds to immediately recognize these B.S. rationalizations for what they are, and push through them anyway.
You see, these phrases are called "surface excuses", or excuses that we tell ourselves to cover up our underlying fears.
In other words, surface excuses actually have nothing to do with being busy, or injured, or tired.
While you may actually be busy, in some pain, or really tired, that doesn't mean you can't find 15 minutes to cook a healthy meal or 20 minutes to take a walk or do a quick workout.
In reality, these "surface excuses" mostly have to do with covering up our:
- Fear of failure
- "It's never worked in the past. Why should it work now?"
- Fear of success
- "Who am I to deserve an attractive, fit body, and will I even be able to maintain it?"
- Fear of embarrassment and humiliation
- "People are going to laugh when they see me waddling around the gym"
First. No one "made it" by giving up after a few failures.
And even if they really put in the effort and still failed, it's because they followed bad instructions, or they followed no instructions.
With the system laid out in this book, you won't need to worry about that. You get clear, well written and simple instructions from someone who knows exactly how to maneuver around the sticking points.
Second. No one cares about your round stomach, jiggly arms, or big butt. This "self-image" issue can be a big obstacle for many of us who are just starting out. I was like this too: I dreaded working out because I figured people were constantly laughing to themselves about how fat I was.
In reality, though, this is all negative self-talk, and it's simply not true.
One of the most important things I've learned over the years is:
People are much more concerned with how they look in the gym, or what they're eating for dinner, or how they can't wait for the next season of Game of Thrones, or how good the cashier at Starbucks looked today, or [insert mindless drivel that goes through my head, and the heads of 99% of people on the planet].
I also heard a study once to the tune of this: people think 7,000 thoughts per day. And 90% of these thoughts are about themselves. So, while you may personally think you have a huge butt or big ol' man boobs that everyone is secretly mocking, there is a good chance that it's simply not true to the rest of the world. They have their own problems to deal with, and you're probably not one of them. So do what you have to do, and don't worry for even a second about what others think.
Third, and last. I personally get very excited anytime I see someone overweight or obese in the gym, or if I see an overweight coworker bringing in a healthy home-cooked meal.
For me, and likely anyone who works hard in the gym (and/or kitchen), it's incredibly refreshing and empowering to see someone who is busting his or her butt, especially if they're not in great shape already. It shows us they're willing and ready to change, and it reminds us of the struggles and obstacles we faced on the way to our dream bodies.
SO when you see that lean guy or gal at the gym, realize that they aren't mocking you when they look your way; rather, there's a very good chance they're very proud, and maybe even surprised, to see someone out of shape finally taking charge of their life.
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Moving forward, there are several other articles/topics I'll share so you can lose weight even faster, and feel great doing it.
Below is a list of these topics and you can use this Table of Contents to jump to the part that interests you the most.